Sorry for the long hiatus! As you know, 2020 happened and that basically meant that everything has changed. I’ve started dabbling into the world of homeschooling as my 3 year old autistic son no longer attended pre-school. I thought I’d share some information on the types of homeschool syllabus I found suitable for pre-schoolers with autism.
It can be truly challenging keeping emotions in check (not only your own, but those close to you), while keeping a clear head to learn what autism and neuro-diversity is, all while trying to figure out what is best for your child. At times, it may feel like you don’t do enough of everything to help your child and it is perfectly normal to feel that way. If you are constantly feeling demotivated about your child’s progress, do reach out to others in the same boat for support and experience sharing. You are not alone in this journey.
Most parents were clueless on autism red flags until someone pointed it out. I wish I knew more people who talked about autism when our son was little so I could pin point his red flags to autism instead of assuming that he’s just a “difficult baby”, “problematic child” etc.. In the end, autism is a spectrum disorder so just because your child does or does not have the symptoms stated above doesn’t mean he or she is or isn’t autistic. Trust your motherly instinct and gut feel, do your own research and consult with your paed if you notice any red flags.
If you have given up on trying to read to your child because she seems to never pay attention or that she would wander off the moment you read the first line, you are not the first to face this challenge. Here we compile 9 tips on how to entice your child, create a positive experience, and hopefully get them to be interested in this wonderful joint-attention activity. It all starts with ourselves! How we run the activity, whether we listen and observe their cues, and whether we can keep things fresh are important.
His autism and sensory disorder means his brain processes certain sensory input differently from ours. It is like he has spidey senses. Here’s how his brain works in terms of sensory processing”. This means that he takes in every sound and visual that there is to take in. He does not filter out white noise like we do, he hears them all. He hears all 3 Azan prayers from the suraus nearby, he hears the aircond, the dishes being washed, the fan whirring, the buzzing in the kitchen light, the cars on the streets.
The waiters were all very amused with him, one tried to engage him few times but he gave no eye contact or respond. The other customers were probably annoyed and judging me. He was SO noisy. But I just couldn’t do anything. I know they probably think he deserves scolding or spanking. But to us he’s doing so well just self entertaining instead of having a tantrum and anxiety. I wish they understand but they don’t. I don’t blame them. Me last year would probably judge myself too.
In therapy centres, in his school, on social media and YouTube videos. William is definitely one of the more hyperactive ones. It is very common for autistic children to be diagnosed as ADHD as well (go follow @adamsautismfamily). Further, William’s score was borderline ADHD based on a questionnaire the doc asked me to do. He was not too worried as he said his attention span is not too bad. Usually ADHD is diagnosed at a later age (ie: above 5 yo cos that’s when the symptoms are clearer). So at his age now it’s still a questionmark.
Is he being stubborn or is it his autism? That is one question that had been bugging us for a while. Sometimes we tend to forget that he also have a personality that he’s born with just like everyone else. For instance he’s super affectionate, probably something he inherited from mommy’s DNA haha. But he is also super defiant. We’ve always known but I guess I wasn’t sure about it once his autism diagnosis came in because autism is such a wide spectrum.
Besides just dealing with an autistic child with sensory disorder and global developmental delay (and possibly ADHD in future), we have to also deal with the normal aspects of the child. Yes, sometimes we tend to forget that he also have a personality that he’s born with just like everyone else. For instance he’s super affectionate, probably something he inherited from mommy’s DNA haha. But he is also super defiant. We’ve always known but I guess I wasn’t sure about it once his autism diagnosis came in because autism is such a wide spectrum.
We want to spread the word, share little experiences, and contribute to the global cause of doing more to creating more awareness among humanity. We take this as a calling for to arms to educate people on autism awareness. The community needs to know about “other” children with an “alternate” state of neurodiversity too. We are making a stand that we shall not suffer in silence. We refuse to. And others like us should not have to.