The waiters were all very amused with him, one tried to engage him few times but he gave no eye contact or respond. The other customers were probably annoyed and judging me. He was SO noisy. But I just couldn’t do anything. I know they probably think he deserves scolding or spanking. But to us he’s doing so well just self entertaining instead of having a tantrum and anxiety. I wish they understand but they don’t. I don’t blame them. Me last year would probably judge myself too.
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In therapy centres, in his school, on social media and YouTube videos. William is definitely one of the more hyperactive ones. It is very common for autistic children to be diagnosed as ADHD as well (go follow @adamsautismfamily). Further, William’s score was borderline ADHD based on a questionnaire the doc asked me to do. He was not too worried as he said his attention span is not too bad. Usually ADHD is diagnosed at a later age (ie: above 5 yo cos that’s when the symptoms are clearer). So at his age now it’s still a questionmark.
Is he being stubborn or is it his autism? That is one question that had been bugging us for a while. Sometimes we tend to forget that he also have a personality that he’s born with just like everyone else. For instance he’s super affectionate, probably something he inherited from mommy’s DNA haha. But he is also super defiant. We’ve always known but I guess I wasn’t sure about it once his autism diagnosis came in because autism is such a wide spectrum.
Besides just dealing with an autistic child with sensory disorder and global developmental delay (and possibly ADHD in future), we have to also deal with the normal aspects of the child. Yes, sometimes we tend to forget that he also have a personality that he’s born with just like everyone else. For instance he’s super affectionate, probably something he inherited from mommy’s DNA haha. But he is also super defiant. We’ve always known but I guess I wasn’t sure about it once his autism diagnosis came in because autism is such a wide spectrum.
Every time I tell someone about my son, one of the most common things I hear is that autistic people have special abilities/gifts. In reality, this savantism trait really occurs to only 10% of autistic diagnoses. Autism is a spectrum disorder. Most likely these people have Aspergers Syndrome (which is now considered a mild for of autism). Individuals with Aspergers can be verbal and academic with no obvious learning disabilities but they still show some autism characteristics like being really antisocial, sensory issues.
Most of people are unsure how to react when someone shares their child’s autism diagnosis. Due to lack of awareness on what autism is, some well-meaning friends, colleagues, or even family members may end up passing inappropriate comments/advice that may not be helpful especially to new autism parents. In this article, we would also like to share 6 things you CAN say that are kind, supportive and loving.
Almost all well-meaning people around us; friends, colleagues, neighbours, and even family members alike, had doubted our son’s autism diagnosis at one point in time. We know people have our best interest at heart and meant well, and we still love them; it just goes to show how severely awareness on autism is within our society. In spirit of spreading awareness, I would like to share 4 common comments that we had received that were less thoughtful.
Medical professionals usually would only diagnose a child with autism at 2-3 years old as the symptoms tend to be clearer then. The earliest you can usually detect is at 18 months old BUT after I did my research of other families with autism and my observation of my own son, I have put together a list of symptoms that could mean your baby has autism features even before 1 year old. Knowing the symptoms early on would be beneficial as the earlier the intervention, the better.
We haven’t been able to get him to eat without YouTube running. And lately, even with YouTube, he has appeared to demand specific songs/videos but we could never tell which! So we would have escalated situations with frantic skipping and searching for videos until he stops whining and able to eat. What mortifies me is that at the current rate, we are becoming too reliant on having a running screen on to have him to feed!
We want to spread the word, share little experiences, and contribute to the global cause of doing more to creating more awareness among humanity. We take this as a calling for to arms to educate people on autism awareness. The community needs to know about “other” children with an “alternate” state of neurodiversity too. We are making a stand that we shall not suffer in silence. We refuse to. And others like us should not have to.